Positive self-talk is enormously important to your well-being. Negative self-talk is something I struggled with for a long time. Cutting mean self-talk out of your mental patterns is crucial to your physical, emotional, and mental health.
Think about it, when you say something discouraging or mean to yourself, you’re doing to yourself what you hope other people never will. You are bringing yourself down because you start to believe the messages and the negativity you are thinking and saying. That, in turn, becomes a consistent, negative mental state.
If you’ve ever read anything about neurons you’ll remember that a consistent and frequent thought pattern results in a stronger connection between neurons and the connection is hard to break. Those connections are a huge reason why addictions are hard to break. Basically, you create a harmful or hurtful addiction that is not only automatic and frequent, but affects your physical self in your muscles, your immune system, your bones, your skin, and even your digestion.
It really is an awful spiral of negativity.
The good news is, the addiction to negative self-talk can be changed. You can retrain your brain to think kind thoughts about yourself. You can break those strong neurological connections that were formed from the mean self-talk and change them to new, positive connections.
Try it for yourself! Here are seven things you should say to yourself every single day. I do, and it has made a world of difference. It is no longer a challenge to think positively about myself–it is automatic! Print this image out so you can carry these statements with you and pull them out whenever you need a reminder. If these aren’t quite right for you, write some of your own. Just make a habit of repeating these positive messages to yourself daily. Like any exercise, practice makes perfect.
Good luck and remember to be nice to yourself because you are your own number one!