When it comes to mean self talk, no one is better at it than me. It’s something I’ve struggled with for a long time and for the past couple years I have been working on every single day. Cutting mean self talk out of your mental patterns is so crucial to your health–physically, emotionally, and mentally. All of those aspects of you are interrelated and affect each other. When one part is lacking or suffering, the others suffer as well.
Think about it, when you say something discouraging to yourself, you’re doing to yourself what you always hope other people never will. You are hurting yourself and your own feelings with whatever negativity you are thinking and saying. That in turn becomes a consistent negative mental state.
If you’ve ever read much on neurons you know that a consistent and frequent thought pattern results in a stronger connection between neurons (and this is hard to break). These connections are a huge reason why addictions are hard to break. You basically create an addiction to hurting yourself which means it is not only automatic and frequent, but affects your physical self in your muscles, your immune system, your bones (because of muscle tensions and the way you carry yourself), your skin, and even your digestion.
It really is an awful spiral of negativity.
The good news is, like any addiction, it can be changed for the better. You can retrain your brain to think kind thoughts about yourself. You can break those stronger neurological connections that were formed in the mean self talk and change them to new and more positive connections. It’s true! I do this almost every day and it is no longer a challenge to think positively about myself. It is automatic!
Try it for yourself! Here are seven things you should say to yourself every single day. I do, and it has made a world of difference. Print this out so you can carry these with you and pull them out whenever you need a reminder.
Good luck and remember to be nice to yourself because you are your own number one!