Recently I met two women who have been bloggers since the beginning of blogging–so, for about 10 years. One of them asked what kind of blog I have so I started to excitedly explain that I’d started a new, positive lifestyle blog because those are the blogs I like to read. In their defense I didn’t have an elevator pitch for them and I think I said something about ‘shiny-happy’ something or other. They didn’t hide their body language by looking at each other with sideways, rolling eyes and smirks. One of them asked, “Why? To make fun of them or because you like them?”
In about a split second I thought, Oh, right–this crowd. We’ve met before. And I remembered that I would have to grow a thick skin because plenty of people don’t believe you’re a real writer or being honest about life if you aren’t talking about the angsty, ‘real stuff’. What I should have asked was, Are you kidding? Why wouldn’t you want to read blogs like that? And by blogs like that I mean Melody Ross, Marc and Angel, Danielle LaPorte, and Kelly Rae Roberts. I owe a lot to blogs like that and to the people who write them. One of the women mentioned a blogger friend who had become known by writing about her divorce, suffering through post-partum depression, and being bi-polar. That’s great for her. I remembered that misery loves company and understood that people can find solace in each other in that way. That ability to connect is, in large part, one of the reasons blogging became popular.
So why a positive, happy blog? Obviously my reasons are different than Brittan’s. This is just my reason. I was depressed for ten years, brought on by something of a genetic predisposition to it and life triggers. I basically mucked through and in many ways missed out on a decade of my life. So, I get the ‘real stuff’ but part of getting healthy, besides therapy and medication, involved a lot of soul work. Yep–that ‘shiny-happy’ shit, and I still do that work, which is why I believe completely and whole-heartedly in the transformative power of positive words and images. I know damn well what I should be reading every day and it definitely isn’t other people’s problems. There will be at least one article about depression here–it’s already written. There will be articles about human rights and equality and thought leadership and organizations that will make some readers uncomfortable, so they’ll leave or they’ll have to think . . . but thinking is positivity, in my book.
And that is why I write a happy blog–it’s my soul work. Why do you write your blog if you have one? If you’re not a blogger, what would you write about? I would love to know. Leave your comment and I will visit.
Follow-up, March 2015: I found it funny that the blogger who asked if I read positive lifestyle blogs because I actually read them or to make fun of them is now a paid writer for a science-based happiness site.