The last year of my life inspired this post and honestly you might scoff a bit. I’m a 20 something and in truth my life is going exceedingly well. I am starting to get on my own two feet and I’m enjoying doing my own thing, but last year was hard. When I stop to think about it I don’t think about events, I think dark. It is like in my mind there is a total lack of light for that space of time, and this directly correlates to how I felt all year. Dig into the dark and there are some dark events that happened yes, but more importantly are energies that I held and people who I realized I needed to no longer spend time with.
In retrospect, I realized an extremely important part of living a good life and that is that you have to find your “happy place” so to speak. I don’t mean that one special spot on the couch where you can relax; I mean find activities that brighten things up for you, invigorate you, or make you feel better. Find the people who make you smile, feel whole and welcomed, and feel like you at your core. Make the space you are in all the time a space you love to be in.
One mistake I think a lot of people make is to think they are stuck. I personally know a great deal of people who think “Oh, I’m in a rental and I’m not going to make it nice since it’s so temporary.” or “Well these are the people I know now and I am too scared of being alone to find people who bring me joy.” Mind you those are explicit wordings of issues, but they are real issues and it is something to be cognizant of.
I started to realize that I wasn’t making my space positive for myself. I wasn’t decorating and cooking and doing things that made it feel like home for me. I realized I was living with people who produced a massive amount of negativity and I was feeding on their bad energies. I realized I wasn’t trying to spend time with friends and all I ever did was work. The good news is as soon as I was conscious of these problems I was able to fix them.
I started cooking, I made plans to move in with new people, I started climbing more and working out more, and I called my friends up just to talk even on days I was too busy to meet up. These seem like small ‘duh’ sort of activities but they really make a huge amount of difference. My challenge to you is to find your “happy place” and dive into it. Enjoy it and bask in what makes you happy and if that changes find the new things that make you happy.
What are some ideas you have to help people get to their “happy place”? I’d love to hear your thoughts.