It takes a lot of work to be something you aren’t. To act as something you don’t believe in or is not, at your core, who you truly are, is dishonest; it’s the same as saying or telling someone things that are not true. It is really important to be truthful to others but more so to yourself. Being truthful lets you be completely yourself and there is a lot of joy and happiness in being genuine. Honesty and truth can take a great deal of confidence, but it is worth it for the freedom that comes from being up front.
Remember in high school for instance, everyone wanted to impress everyone else and people would pretend they liked certain bands or tried on the goth look or played football . . . just because. That goth probably would have rather been wearing pink, the football player probably wanted to do marching band instead, and the person pretending to like NSYNC was probably, actually a Pearl Jam fan. Those faces were hard to put on too because it meant those people were not being true to themselves. They had to consciously remember to lie and had to dedicate time and energy to people and activities they weren’t actually interested in and drawn to.
That’s a lot of wasted energy. Put your energy in the right places. If you like knitting, if you like mermaids, if you like One Direction, just like those things. Do those things and be exactly who you are because you’re going to be happier, you’re going to attract the kind of people you want to, and you’ll be more relaxed and feel more genuine. It’s worth it and it’s a whole lot easier than putting on a front every day.
It’s also important to remember that lies add up. The more you lie about things the higher that tower of lies grows. They build on one another and build till it consumes you and you forget what the truth is.
Sounds exhausting doesn’t it?
So are you being honest with yourself? Are you honest with others?