What is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?
I love that question. I have since the first time it took my breath away. It reminds me to do my best, reach for the stars, and make every second count. But sometimes I compare my wild and precious life to ‘everybody’ else’s wild and precious life and figure I’m falling desperately short.
You know the expressions. Follow your Bliss. Live your Passion. Yada Yada Yada. I have to say, I struggle with what my Bliss, Passion, Yada is. I really do! And then I feel bad because I think I’m missing out or I’m ‘less than’ or I’m old school or something because ohmyholycriminy I’m not Following my Bliss! Not to mention, I’m not getting any younger so surely I need to get a handle on this!
The problem is I can’t follow my bliss or live my passion if I don’t know what my bliss or my passion is.
How do I find it? Every self-help guru out there has advice about it. Measure this. Define that. Feel this. Do that.
Why does it matter? It matters because we feel good when we’re doing anything for a purpose. It’s easy to feel discontented when you don’t know why you’re doing what you’re doing. It can put the sunniest of us into a full-on funk.
Trust me, I’m all for finding your Bliss, Passion, Yada, but I don’t like the idea of being overwhelmed by the task. When I feel overwhelmed or behind, or like I’m failing, I worry. If you’ve seen me when I worry, you know it ain’t pretty. Worry makes me sick and stressed because it robs me of enjoying the magic of what I’m doing and who I am today.
I am a huge Charlie Gilkey fan and he wrote something about a year ago that gave me permission to take it easy on myself. Definitely read his article in it’s entirety but here is a snippet of him talking about creatives . . . and me . . . and maybe you.
She wants to know that the choices that she’s made – the adventures and the misadventures – were all headed in a direction that made sense and meant something. She wants to be able to tell her story in a coherent way that doesn’t look like it’s been aimlessly going from one thing to the next; a story that doesn’t look like a score of unfinished creative projects, half-careers, and sojourns in a yurt in a desert somewhere (real or metaphorical).
She wants a simple story of a successful life well-lived rather than the complex, wandering weirdo life that looks more like a tapestry constantly being woven or damaged goods constantly being repackaged.
Shoot, did he come over for a drink and I don’t remember talking too much? He said people like me get bored with who they are and what they do but “to be a creative is to be a well-spring of change–we aren’t known for our predictability and stability for a good reason. ”
Thanks, Charlie. This notion of finding my Bliss, Passion, Yada has been coming back to me a lot lately, as it tends to from time to time, but I feel a lot more chill about it all. I keep figuring it out a little more as I go along but I’m not beating myself up about not knowing all the answers yet. I haven’t found my Bliss yet. I don’t know what my Passion is but I’m ok with that. I’m not worried about it and I’m enjoying the process. Some of us are late bloomers, yo!
It’s ok–good even–to keep thinking about what you plan to do with your one wild and precious life. It’ll keep you looking forward, after all. But if you aren’t sure what your path is yet and you’re worried about missing the boat or being behind, I give you permission to just enjoy the journey (with me). You’re perfect just the way you are and it’s all going to come together in due time.
- I do have a creative spirit. It’s OK to own that and Creatives aren’t known for their stability. Phew!
- The journey to finding “my thing” should be enjoyed and enjoyable.
- Some of us really do mellow with age.
If you have found your Bliss or know what your Passion is, I would love to know how you discovered it and what you’re doing.