Isn’t that the truth? One sincere compliment can lift us up, make us stand a little straighter, keep us pushing forward.
People tend to do what they get noticed for. When the kids were growing up and when I was a teacher, it paid to compliment my kids or students on great behavior I wanted them to continue. It’s the same for adults. If we’re noticed or appreciated for something we do well, we tend to continue doing that thing, whether it’s something we’re doing at work or in a relationship, or even getting the right hair color.
S. Max Brown and Tanveer Naseer, who write about organizations and leadership wrote: “The compliments we carry with us are the ones that make us feel good about ourselves and our abilities. They are sources of encouragement, pushing us to persevere, and they then become the fuel of our aspirations, pushing us higher.”
Sounds good to me!
Barbara McCauley-Lovejoy, an educator in Utah, recommends looking for things to compliment by “scanning for red”. She says if you walk into a room and scan for red, you’ll notice a lot of red things you didn’t notice before. It’s the same when looking for things to compliment. If you’re paying attention, you’ll find lots of things you didn’t notice before.
Let’s work on this one.
Let’s try to notice things to compliment and be specific about them because a powerful compliment is a gift. Rather than saying somebody did well on a project, let them know their hard work made a difference and you appreciate their efforts. Rather than telling somebody they have a great shirt, let them know they look good in it and the color brings out their eyes.
Give a great compliment this week. Better yet, give a great compliment every day this week! 😉