I met a guy who really kind of blew my mind.
For months I desperately crossed my fingers, avoided open umbrellas indoors, made wishes at 11:11, and held my breath in tunnels hoping one of my superstitions would work to coax him in my direction. I’m really a fatalist at heart and I convinced myself that it was in my destiny for this guy to happen for me. Every raindrop on my forehead was a sign (considering I live in Oregon there were a lot of signs), ears ringing meant he was thinking of me and, of course, daisy petals were crucial in telling if he loved me or not.
Needless to say I was rapidly digressing into a 10 year old girl with her first crush and only Disney movies to base it all off of.
Finally, reality hit me like a ton of bricks and I remembered, because I am a grown ass woman, that nothing happens without action. All the weirdness I was doing wasn’t going to help my case, so I just asked him out like a normal adult. He said yes and we went on what I interpreted as a really fantastic date. I left the evening feeling like maybe some of my mystical believing was legitimate and had worked. The future was looking bright.
Reality then hit me again when he decided to never text or call me. Honestly, I was totally crushed by the whole thing. So it was destiny…well, sort of.
You might be like me and have strong held belief in things like signs, destiny, and fate. I think that’s beautiful and I hope we can all find ways to hold on to the magic we believe in because even though it doesn’t always work out . . . sometimes it does.
What is important for all us fatalist, destiny-believing types to remember is that despite what we may think, our reality is often entirely in our hands. We drive the boat most of the time and at the end of the day we have to make choices instead of wait around for the universe to work its magic.
Don’t put too much weight on things that are actually pretty trivial. As important as the lifeline that one gypsy woman traced on your hand at the state fair when you were 15 may have seemed, life might not actually work the way she said it would. It doesn’t mean you’ll be alone or that things won’t be wonderful. It will probably happen a different way.
I’m not trying to destroy the magic of serendipitous things happening. In, fact, my current,unreal, awesome relationship is the result of amazingly serendipitous events. I’m saying hold on to the magic you believe but take it all with a grain of salt and remember at the end of the day magic doesn’t always pull through for you.
But You can always pull through for you. You can make your reality something really special.
Regardless, what kinds of funny superstitions or magical beliefs do you have?