Hot button issue number one: body image. Everywhere you look there’s a new campaign saying, “you are great just as you are!” and then you look left and there is a crazy Photoshopped Target model making you feel bad about thigh gap. I’d say that’s a bit of a disconnect. It’s no wonder people are so confused and insecure about their bodies, particularly women, because there is so much cognitive dissonance within us after witnessing what is being presented to us.
So, what if we change the conversation from “you are enough vs you are unworthy” to “stop comparing–period and focus on your own health and happiness”?
The root of body image issues comes from comparing ourselves with what we see in media and in other women. Like the old saying goes, beauty is in the eye of the beholder and with body image issues the beholder is you. Change can happen when we stop looking at those other women and comparing ourselves to them. So what if you don’t have thigh gap? So what if you don’t have boobs like a Victoria’s Secret model? I have seen a lot of bodies–skinny, tall, short, round, curvy, twiggy, naked, clothed, somewhere in the middle, and not a single one of those bodies looked like any other body I have seen.
Not a single person in this world looks like any other person. Your body type is your body type. It’s the only one like it, so stop looking at other people and feeling inadequate. The people you see in magazines that make you feel crappy were reshaped by computers to look like every other person you see in a magazine who makes you feel crappy. In real life they have hip bones, ribs, wrinkles, pudge, and spots just like everyone else.
Everyone can be beautiful and everyone has something about them that is special. Maybe it is a fantastic rack, a great s mile, gorgeously curvy hips, strong athletic legs, a beautifully prominent nose, twiggy arms, or a lovely soft belly. Everything about a body can be beautiful if you can think about it in a realistic way.
The real issue should not be what shape you are. It should be how you feel. Do you feel healthy? Do you feel strong? Do you feel like your body can do what you want it to be able to do? Are you taking care of yourself physically? If the answers to those questions are yes, you’re doing just fine. If you feel good, you look good. Period. The end.
So turn off the damn TV, stop looking at Cosmo, and start focusing on You. Because who gives a shit what other women look like? You look like you and that is something really awesome.