There’s nothing wrong with experiencing anger from time to time. It’s one of our most human emotions and it’s powerful and natural. What is important is to learn what to do with it. Understanding anger and learning to let go of it and move on is really important. Like I said, it’s a big emotion and it alters us physically as well as mentally, which isn’t good. If you are angry at someone or something, you’re not improving the situation for anyone, especially yourself, by stewing in your anger.
I am really not good at letting go of anger. I mean really, I am the worst at letting it go and I tend to hang on to my anger like it’s a coveted Barbie on Black Friday. So this is something I am working hard on being better at. We can work on it together! Here are the steps I’ve come up with so far:
1. Find a way to separate myself from the situation physically. I use that space to breathe and calm down physically first.
2. Once my heart rate is lower and I feel in control, I then put my mind somewhere else. I often do this by listening to a song and really focusing on the lyrics, or reading a chapter of a book. When I’m angry this is the hardest thing to do but it is also the most helpful.
3. OK, I’ve distanced myself mentally and physically from the thing that made me angry. Now I can think about it again but with way more perspective. I can see the situation more objectively and now that I am calm I can be rational.
4. Figure out what I can do, be it some action like starting a productive discussion or choosing to move on that allows me to let go of that anger. Whatever I figure out, I act on it and move towards peace.
Letting go of anger is the best way to find peace and calm in any situation. I’ve also found for me it helps me heal no matter what has happened. Make a checklist for yourself that you can use when you experience anger. I’d definitely write it down when you’re calm and keep it handy. I hope these steps for dealing with anger are helpful to you.
How do you work through your anger? What do you do when you are angry? Do you have any great tips or tricks to help overcome it?
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